The Importance of Finding your “Tribe”

My friends have always been such a big part of my life.

I firmly believe that there is nothing better or more essential in this world than finding a group of friends who genuinely support and love one another.

For lack of a better term, your “tribe” or “girl group” can make such a big impact on your life. The people you surround yourself with effect your mindset, goals, and even your feelings about yourself.

Making time to support friends is something I see a lot of people put on the back burner for other things like romantic relationships, without realizing what a disservice they are doing themselves AND the other people in their lives.

Lately, I’ve realized just how big a part of me that my friends really are, as most of them have scattered from our college town to student teach or do fieldwork. It has honestly been a heartbreaking experience and harder to deal with than I would have ever expected. I feel like I have taken for granted the precious time we were given together, just living down the street.

As I watched my best friend leave one evening I felt tears come to my eyes, and I was so startled. To watch her go and know that our lives were rapidly changing and we may never live in the same town again quite literally took my breath.

Finding my friends has been a lot like finding a soul mate. My best friend, Courtney, and I have been friends since we were 16. Since then, we have become so close I feel like she knows what I am thinking. She has truly seen the ugliest parts of me and is still there whenever I call. She has wiped my tears, made me laugh until I thought I was going to die, and carried the train of my wedding dress. Finding someone like that is a bond that is incommunicable and irreplaceable. I wish that I could articulate myself more clearly, but finding your best friend is just being comfortable together, wanting their success and happiness, and just truly loving one another like family. It’s something I think everyone needs and deserves.

In a moment we just clicked, and I was lucky enough to have this feeling with a few more of our friends until we all formed this amazing, supportive group.

I can’t count the times that I have shown up to some of their apartments unannounced or they have shown up to mine because we always feel at home and welcome with one another.

When I am going to make a big decision I want their opinions, and they always give me the truth. If I have a really bad day, I call and they talk me down.

The feeling of watching them all succeed and grow in their careers is unparalleled. I am so fiercely proud of them all and my heart fills with joy to see them doing what they love because I know how wonderful they are at it.

They are all smart, strong, hardworking women. They have set the example for me on what it means to persevere through tough times, care and listen to other people, be compassionate, and work hard. They have taught me so many things I could only learn from them.

I didn’t just hear my mother say “Sometimes you have to work hard and do things that you don’t want to”. I saw my friends do this, and all the while they inspired me to be more like them.

I’ve watched them weather storms that I can’t imagine, but I’ve seen their sacrifice for one another, their willingness to be there and to really support each other.

I’ve watched them take risks and live their dreams, and to me, that’s the real sweet spot.

All the while they have made time to be there for me, give me advice, encourage me, and ask “what’s going on in your life?” or “how can I help?”

Friends, if you are reading this, know that I love you beyond words. Thank you for always wanting me to succeed, for holding my hand during the tough times, and for your honesty and support. Your joy is my joy, and I am so proud

If you haven’t found your “tribe” or think women supporting other women isn’t important, you have no idea how it can change your life.

I hope that everyone will eventually find their “people”. Because of mine, I have become a happier, more positive person. I am surrounded by loving and supportive friends, and because of them, I am a better woman.

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